Everyday, whether you may believe me or not, we have the opportunity of learning something new. We have the opportunity to start fresh. To start over at anything we set our minds to do, so long as we believe it. That is how simple it can seem. But we know it may not always be this way.
We may have been in situations that had caused us to go through periods of growth, even if those very situations were not necessarily caused by us per say; its main purpose to mature you before time. In my life, it was the abuse that forced me to mature mentally a lot sooner than a lot of other children around me my age.
Sometime, what happens in our lives forces us to create our own opportunities. Because of a lack in some form of love we didn’t receive from those that we expected to receive love from, may have created a disconnect from our own versions of what love towards ourselves really looks like.
“Heal” they said, and yet I did not see many people speak on how to do this. And if I heard a how, It was not the how that I related to or could even accomplish. Why is that? I asked myself many times. Was it fear of fully healing that caused me to stay in such a gloomy loop?
I believe now more than ever that your human experience demands that you pay close attention to yourself. No, not just to look in the mirror and say some nice words of affirmation; still a great thing to do, but more along the lines of you really digging deep and become more self aware. You should know more about yourself than anyone else. And that place right there, is where your healing can happen. That is the place that not many can find, and unfortunately not many believe exists.
I thought that healing would be easy and that I would get there quickly if I kept pushed myself hard enough. I never realized that I had to look inside of myself in order to truly face myself. That was the key.
This world is designed to be such a distraction. The more busy you get the less time you have to search for your healing. Because of everything that happens around us, it becomes more and more difficult to keep up with yourself. From the moment we wake up till we fall asleep everything is go, go, go. That is just it. Because of the fast lane speed life was moving, I quickly learned that I had to take everything one situation at a time and one day at a time.
I strongly believe in self care and self love, but It has not been easy getting to that place for me. It has been such a journey thus far, but like a friend of mine reminded me recently, ”your story is still being written”. Thank you Dolly for those words, they meant so much.
Healing is not easy. I know it sounds cliche, but really, you have to put in a lot of work to properly heal. It is definitely not going to happen overnight. You may be hurting right now, confused, may not know what is your next step, or even may be starting your healing journey. where ever you may be at this point in your life, you can rest assure you are on a path that can lead you to the other side of that ”thing” if you choose to put in the work to get there.
Stop! self reflect. Go over some things and sort out some things with yourself. You will be surprised at the things you can discover. This was my How. I stepped back and just learned more about myself in the last two years of my life than what I have never learned in my entire life as a collective. That to me is more than just growth, that is an awakening.
Just like I have been hearing as of lately, ”I was today years old when I learned …” well, I was today years old when I realized that I have not shared enough of my journey to really make a difference. I am vowing to share more of myself because I want to help someone. That has been my main goal since I was thirteen.
Blogging started out as a hobby and a thing I did to keep my mind off the problems that I was facing. It was my escape and outlet. Still to this day, it is a way of me doing what I love, which is writing and sharing information in hopes that I can help someone heal. What drives you to do what you do? Are you afraid to start anything because you are afraid of rejection like I was? “The grass is greener on the other side” on the other side of fear that is.
I am falling in love with this new version of myself, yet and still my main goal is to share my journey so that you can see first hand how I have managed to still be standing after all of my adversities and all of my tribulations. Im rising on the other side, and things are not Black and white anymore. they are in full color. Hope you can find time today to introduce yourself to yourself again. This time, keep it real and find your place of healing.
Dolly has been in my life since we were young girls in middle school. Life has happened for the both of us, and we have gone through our share of tribulations in this life. Today, I want to shed some light on who she is and the amazing work that she is doing. She is an amazing mother of three beautiful children and an amazing wife as well. I want to take the time to share her information for anyone needing that extra help and push to get up and get moving in pursuit of real happiness and your own self love journey. She has helped me, and I am sure that she can do the same for many out there. Get to know her, she is making an impact and is definitely gifted at what she does. Dolly as well as other amazing women will be featured on my podcast in the near future, so stay tuned for what is to come.
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“When you pay attention to what makes you feel energized, follow your intuition and do what you love, you will do more than just succeed. You will soar.”Oprah
As always, thank you all for your continued support.